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A Living Lesson Plan
by Pamela Lancaster
My last article generated more comments than any I've written. Even though
I am unable to respond individually I do want to thank you for your encouraging
words (and even a poem) which all help to keep me spurred on in my life
work.
Work has started on "the brick house" [the older home we are
fixing up]. My new haunts have become Home Depot, Lowe's, and plumbing and
lighting stores. The house has been stripped of all its broken and worn
out parts and taken down to its bare bones. Now it is being rebuilt, replumbed,
rewired, reroofed, rewindowed, redrywalled, and the yard regraded. There
is great satisfaction in taking dominion over and redeeming this house and
turning it into our home full of usefulness and beauty for the Lord. As
I see the house make this transformation I am reminded of what the Lord
does in our lives as he confronts us with our sins often times tearing off
layers of disobedience and then rebuilding, making us useful and beautiful
for him.
In the May issue of Victoria magazine there was a section with reflections
by women about their mothers and I was struck by the following one: "My
mother didn't use a lesson plan, she didn't have a to-do list. She simply
lived what she believed and, in doing so, was a wonderful role model."
This quote has given me pause and I have enjoyed reflecting on its possible
meaning for me. I love the simplicity and peacefulness it implies. At this
time of year my thoughts are turning to our schooling schedule, which will
be abnormal this fall, as work is in full swing on the house and this is
prime harvesting/canning season. I work on not listening to the tape that
plays in my head which says that a GOOD school starts September 1, has wonderful
lesson plans all written for the year and great new books all bought and
lined up neatly on the shelves. The magazine quote causes me to remember
that all of life is education, and what I do and say and how I relate to
my children is so much more important than the perfect lesson plan (which
does have its place). I need to consider what our life is like right now
and how I can use our present circumstances as a very valuable learning
environment.
How I respond to my life right now will be better than any book. How
I respond to delays in the remodeling schedule or problems that WILL arise
that call upon me to revise my plans and dreams will go a long way in teaching
my children to trust God and his timing, to learn patience and contentment,
to live beautifully and creatively in the here and now rather than in the
when
. How Phil and I resolve the differences that just naturally arise
when working on a project, especially when our working styles are so different,
will teach them about the marriage relationship and how to work out differences.
So what is my current schooling schedule, what are my lesson plans? In
general our school will have an emphasis early in the year on the practical
arts plus math and reading. As we move into the house and the winter months
set in and the library is unpacked we will add other subjects. I'm looking
forward to cozy nights reading with the wood stove burning brightly and
finally being settled physically and mentally.
Our life right now looks somewhat like this:
Sarah, 20, continues to work for Phil, is working on some midwifery reading
and projects, and is in charge of canning the produce we grow or buy. She
learned to pressure can this summer and so far has added cherries, peaches,
apples, pork, beef, green beans, sauerkraut, and a variety of tomato products
to our larder. She is also training Laura and Joanna in this homemaking
skill. She continues her hand work and her hope chest continues to grow
- in boxes now, having already filled her hope chest a long time ago.
Drew, almost 19, continues to work fulltime in home construction and
he is part of the crew remodeling our house. He is in charge of our animals,
which have grown from the two horses we came with to now include a colt,
a milk cow and calf, a boar, two sows and nine baby pigs. He is setting
up his own home next to ours having bought a used trailer which he is fixing
up. As I write this I am sitting in the waiting room of a local hospital.
Drew has just gotten out of surgery where he had his nose re-broken and
set (he broke it last spring and it didn't heal properly). So for the next
six weeks he will be limiting his work and activities as his nose heals.
Laura,16, and Joanna, 12, are learning to can and have helped with vegetable
and flower gardening. Laura continues to draw and paint nature subjects
and has found some interesting specimens at our new place. Laura is currently
reading Christy and Joanna is reading The Secret Garden. Both girls are
working on their new room decor and arrangement as they will be sharing
a room with Alice. I want to get the Emilie Barnes' book for girls on decorating
to let them do some study and thinking in this area as they plan.
Seth, 13, learned fencing this summer under another young man's tutelage
as they fenced in about two thirds of our pasture. He is Phil's right-hand
man on property projects and has helped other community families with some
of their outside work. Seth and I built a grape arbor out of felled trees
and we have plans to build a couple of trellises for my honeysuckle, plus
another arbor for some wisteria vines. He is currently reading in the Narnia
series for a second time.
Alice, 6, enjoys playing with her dolls, new kitten, and new friends.
She loves to wash dishes and the bathroom sink. In the last article I mentioned
Alice's talking about "the spirit of loveliness." As I have thought
more about this I've realized the blessing Alice has in a mother and three
older sisters who all pursue the godly character quality of creativity and
beauty. For me this journey has been a much studied and pursued activity.
My three older daughters have benefited from my pursuits and study and have
listened to my talks on the subject. They have grown up learning by observation
and also by a conscious pursuit of the subject. For Alice it is an unconscious
learning process as she listens and watches the rest of us actively pursuing
creativity and beauty. She is just naturally and unconsciously doing it
daily. And that is how it should be.
Let this be an encouragement to those of you who see the importance of
beauty and creativity in the home but find it doesn't come easily to you.
Keep working at it even just a little because the fruit of even your simplest
efforts will be children who are freer and more naturally inclined in these
areas in their daily lives. Encourage and promote their efforts. How about
a Lego centerpiece for dinner tonight or using those precious child bouquets
or treasures of rocks and feathers in a centerpiece? You be creative in
encouraging their creativity. Perhaps this next generation of daughters
will enter marriage better equipped in the art of homemaking.
Since Sarah took charge of canning that has freed me to work on taking
dominion over the neglected yard. This has been very therapeutic for me
because I am definitely still in the remedial class for learning patience
and contentment. Working in the yard has given me lots of time to pray and
think, often times doing battle within myself on various issues. I started
first with an herb garden. On an anniversary trip to Asheville, NC, Phil
and I found a wonderful herb nursery where we were able to buy most of the
herbs on my list plus many others that weren't. The Lord has blessed my
efforts and all but two of the herbs have not only grown but greatly prospered
- so much so that I can divide some this fall and share with others. Next
I moved on to some perennial flower beds which I have lined with rocks and
are quite attractive. We have some wonderful rocks here in Virginia, lots
of quartz which is a personal favorite. As the house progresses and various
sides of it become free from construction work I want to make shrub and
flower beds there too.
As I close this visit I have now joined Drew in his recovery room. His
nose is in a cast and bandaged and he has been given some drugs to help
him rest and for the pain. He slips in and out of lucidity and as I sit
and watch him rest my heart wells up with love for him. He has grown into
a wonderful, hardworking young man. I see and feel God's gracious blessings
on Phil and me. My finiteness rushes over me as I think of my many failures/sins
in mothering this child. I am so thankful that Drew is God's child first
of all and that God works through my failures. He remembers I am dust. I
see before me on his hospital bed a young man who is actively pursing the
faith of his father and grandfathers. A young man who is setting up a home
so that he can marry and raise another generation of covenant children for
the Lord. Where have the years gone? They have flown by so quickly just
as many an older woman said they would.
I am drawn back to my beginning quote. I see the importance of living
a godly life as the very best lesson plan that I can work on because what
I want most for each of my children is a heart that loves and serves God
above all else. So I will turn off the tape in my mind playing the tune
that seeks to discourage me because my lesson plans aren't all written or
even planned. I'll continue to work on having my daily time with the Lord
and fighting my daily battles with patience and contentment. I'll continue
to work on loving and honoring my husband and loving my children because
in actuality these are the best lessons plans for the long haul.
May your best lesson plan this year be yourself.
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